THERAPY FOR PEOPLE WHO FEEL “TOO MUCH”
Many of the people I work with have spent a long time feeling like they are “too much” for other people in one way or another: too emotional, too sensitive, too intense, too needy, too reactive, too complicated.
Often those experiences develop over years of subtle or explicit messages that certain feelings, needs, reactions, or parts of yourself are difficult for other people to tolerate.
Over time, many people learn to contain themselves very carefully in relationships, either by intellectualizing emotions, minimizing needs, staying hyper-independent, becoming highly accommodating, or constantly monitoring how they are coming across.
At the same time, many people carry a tremendous amount internally that rarely feels safe enough to fully express.
Therapy with me is not about trying to make you less emotional, less sensitive, or easier for other people to digest. It’s about understanding how these experiences developed, noticing the ways you’ve learned to protect yourself in relationships, and helping you build a life where you don’t feel like you constantly need to shrink, overexplain yourself, apologize for existing, or carefully manage every part of yourself in order to keep people comfortable.
For others, it means finally building routines that work for their actual brain, communicating needs more directly, feeling less shame around accommodations, or no longer feeling like every interaction requires intense self-monitoring afterward.
I also genuinely enjoy doing practical and skills-based work with neurodivergent clients around executive functioning, emotional regulation, routines, communication, boundaries, burnout prevention, and building systems that actually fit the way your brain works rather than forcing yourself into ones that don’t.
A lot of neurodivergent people also describe feeling disconnected from their bodies entirely, like they’re living mostly from the neck up and trying to intellectually manage experiences that are actually sensory, emotional, physical, or relational.
Our work might involve understanding the emotional costs of masking, building greater self-trust, improving relationships, and figuring out what it could look like to move through the world in ways that feel more sustainable and less performative.
For some people, that means feeling less socially exhausted all the time.
Interoception challenges, sensory overwhelm, chronic self-monitoring, and years of pushing through discomfort can make embodiment feel inaccessible or even unsafe.
Part of the work can involve slowing down enough to notice what’s happening internally, understanding sensory needs and limits, and developing ways of moving through the world that feel less punishing and more sustainable.
I also understand neurodivergence within larger social and systemic contexts. Many neurodivergent adults carry years of internalized shame from environments that pathologized difference or rewarded relentless self-suppression.
